I remember when my husband and I purchased our mini-van. There was only one mini-van I would be caught dead owning and that was the Honda Odyssey. We didn’t decide in one day to purchase it. No, it was about a month-long process before we actually bought it. During that month I started noticing that every other car was a Honda Odyssey. Well, maybe not every other car, but certainly ever other mini-van. It was amazing how all these Honda Odyssey’s were everywhere now. It was as if everyone else had gone out overnight and purchased the same exact mini-van that I wanted.
Was it true? Had everybody decided at the same time that this mini-van was the must-have vehicle of the month and gone out and purchased it the night before? Of course not. What had changed was me. I had decided it was the must-have vehicle for me and therefore I was the one who had changed. My subconscious had picked up on my not-so-subtle message of “this is the car I want” and was now alerting me every time we saw a Honda Odyssey. It didn’t know that I didn’t care how many Odyssey’s were on the road, it didn’t care what my purpose for the Odyssey was, all it knew was that I had made that particular mini-van a very important part of my thoughts and it was going to be diligent and point out every single instance of “Honda Odyssey” it saw.
Your subconscious is very powerful that way. It doesn’t care why you think the way you do, it doesn’t care why you focus on the things you do. Your subconscious just knows the thoughts that you choose to be important to you and then it starts looking for those things day in and a day out.
Imagine you’re standing on a stage looking out into an audience and each person represents events in your life. Some represent good things happening in your life, some represent the bad things – the red lights, rude strangers, etc. Depending on who you are, where you live, it could be skewed more towards good or more towards bad.
Your subconscious is like dozens of spotlights. You purposely choose what to think about. The spotlights then light up the members in the audience that fit your criteria. All of the people in the audience are still there. They don’t disappear. But the ones you light up are the ones you are going to see and notice.
The good news is that you consciously get to pick what to shine your spotlight on. It doesn’t change your circumstances but when you start thinking positively you start lighting up all the good things in your life. The bad things are still there they just appear as dark shadows that really don’t need a lot of time and energy.
I personally hate red lights. It’s such a waste of time to sit at a red light. I understand that they are very necessary but that doesn’t change the fact that I don’t like sitting for a minute, stuck somewhere I don’t want to be, with no other options at a red light. I even used to count at the red lights just to see how long the injustice would last and then grumbling to myself how my red light lasted longer than the cross light. Then of course every light I came upon was red as well. I had practically no luck ever finding a green light.
One day I decided to tell myself that I have awesome luck finding green lights and then while I’m driving I hardly ever get stuck at a red light. Like magic most of my lights were green or getting ready to turn green. Had the odds of my green light/red light changed? Of course not. I consciously made the decision to tell myself that I usually find the green lights.
In the past my subconscious was pointing out all the instances of red lights. I hadn’t made green lights a priority in my thoughts and as such my subconscious wasn’t noticing the green lights. Once I purposely shifted my perspective, my subconscious started pointing out all the green lights. The red lights were no longer a priority so while I was still getting stopped at red lights, I wasn’t focusing on the red light and therefore I barely noticed them.
You may feel that all sorts of bad things are coming at you left and right and you may be correct. I have a friend who’s husband is facing job loss, each of her children have gone through a period of seizures due to a genetic issue, but every time I see her she acts like it isn’t a big deal. She doesn’t spend time and energy thinking about those things. They are there. She is not ignoring them, but she has made the choice to shine her spotlights on the good things in the life. She has consciously told herself that everything will be okay: her husband will get another job and she isn’t going to worry about what happens to her children. She believes that God has a plan for her children and she will be at peace with what comes their way.
Life very well could be throwing you an overwhelming amount of bad things. The point is you can’t change a lot of what comes towards you. Your initial audiences are set by your surroundings. Tell yourself that you are going to grab a hold of your spotlights and redirect them to the good things that are happening to you. You may find you have a smaller number of spotlights lit up to start, but as your subconscious picks up on the new redirection you will find it easier to see the good things and the bad things will become faint shadows – still there, but easily looked beyond.
Are you grateful? I mean, seriously, are you REALLY grateful for what you have in your life right now?
So many of us get caught up in what we want in the future we forget to slow down and enjoy what we have right now. That snuggle with a loved one. That new food, the old favorite food, hanging out with friends. Watching the stars and looking for meteors.
These all may be simple and don’t provide the monetary wealth you are looking for as you attempt to use the Law of Attraction to manifest things into your life.
But what is one of the basic tenants of the Law of Attraction? You get what you focus on. That is the basic first principle. So what are you focusing on? The lack of what you have in your life or the numerous good things happening to you?
One thing I personally have had to do is literally slow down and be grateful for what I have right now today. I was simply amazed by my kids as they told me that the current summer vacation had been their best summer vacation EVER! We had not gone to an amusement park, taken a massive vacation, or done anything fancy that many of their friends had done.
But what I had done is build a fire pit. I hung out with my children around a campfire in my front yard. We ate lots of Smores, did yardwork, spent one night every week watching meteors, and put in a garden for the first time ever.
What my kids were telling me is that they were grateful… That I slowed down, hung out, and spent more time with them.
I feel this is part of what is now an 18 month long journey to be more positive and purposeful in my life. Maybe some of the things that I do on a daily or weekly basis can be of service to you.
Do this daily:
At the end of each day, sit down and write down five things that you are grateful for. No matter how small. Do not go to bed before you do this! Don’t repeat the same thing from yesterday… put some effort into it and find something new to be grateful for. If needed, keep a small pad of paper and a pen on you throughout the day and jot down things you are grateful for during the day so you remember in the evening.
A family exercise to do… And this has become a tradition in the family that my kids will not allow me to avoid now! Just before bed as a family, we each share three we are grateful for that happened in the day. This is not a time for commentary or hopes for the future, but a sincere happiness at something for the day. If you already do a daily worship or meditation, you can easily tack this on.
The simple focus of being grateful for what you have will change your energy patterns and outlook. Yes, at times you will be grumpy, tired, or angry for some reason or the other. But still do your “Gratefulness Journal” before bed. I bet it will help your attitude!
Working on yourself within any frame of reference, be it religion, the law of attraction, meditation, etc. comes down to one thing.
To start you must make a decision. That decision is the start. It is as simple as that. All the ups and downs and pain of change follow from that simple determined decision.
I was reading about Olympic athletes and the training they go through. The comment that stuck out to me was one of the coaches described the journey of these amazing people.
The media, the crowds, the fans, and even many of the families focus on the brief time from the starting gun to the finish line. Did the athlete win? Did they lose? Was there an injury? Maybe there was an elimination or…
But that is not when the race started. The race started days, months, and likely years prior to the athletic event. It started when the athlete made a decision to win.
What is it you are wanting to do? What is on your goal list that simply has never happened? That change in attitude? The extra income? The time with family?
It all comes down to this… Start now. Make a decision. Then enjoy the journey.
Staying focused can sometimes be difficult especially when the negativity creeps into your life. It’s those times of weakness where an encouraging word, a motivational poster, or even a forgotten quote from can remind you to stay focused on the goal. When you get discouraged remember that you and only you are in charge of your thoughts, your positivity, your goals, and what you make of life.
If you’ve ever talked to people about their high-school years, most people can be lumped into a few different categories: the jocks, the cheerleaders, the geeks, the in-crowd, the social-rejects, etc. Most people don’t consider themselves as being in part of the “in-crowd” and spent all four years just attempting to fit in somewhere.
As adults we have become more comfortable in our own skin, but still desire to have close, personal relationships and for a large percentage they are elusive. Many people are struggling even finding a spouse which is why there are so many candidates on match-making websites trying to find the perfect person they can spend the rest of their life with just so they don’t have to be alone.
So how does the law of attraction apply to getting friends? Or even a spouse? Is it possible to attract friends? Let’s take a look at man’s best friend. There is a reason dogs are called man’s best friend.
Pets are a supreme example of faith and belief. Especially dogs. Watch the average dog greet a family member that has been gone from the house for any period of time. First, the dog has complete and unshakeable faith that “their” person loves them. And the dog believes that they are loved in return. This is such an amazingly strong element of the normal dog-human relationship that studies have been done on it. There are actual “medical dogs” that are taken into cancer wards, children hospitals, and retirement centers. People on the edge of death light up and respond to the unwavering and absolute faith of the dog that each person is worth of love and the belief that love is returned to them.
Now ask yourself how do you act around people? Are you hesitant about yourself? Do you approach people certain you will not be accepted? Examine your faith and belief in your interactions.
One of the principles of the law of attraction is simply this: what you think about you will get. In observing the interaction of a dog you can see how you need to act to attract people. This works in social aspects, sales, customer service, and any type of interaction.
First, BE EXCITED!!!!! Ok, not quite as excited as a dog, but show sincere enthusiasm. A sub-element of this is…. SMILE!!! Smiles are contagious. Look in the mirror at your normal expression. Are you smiling? If not, DO IT!!! Seriously. If you aren’t in the mood to smile, Fake it! Look in the mirror and put a believable fake smile on your face. If this is hard for you – practice in the mirror a bit. When the SMILE looks genuine, memorize it. Practice it on the next 10 people you see…. I bet they all smile back.
One of the fun tricks I love to do at this point is to specifically pick someone that looks grumpy and simply do an EXCITED SMILE at them. It’s interesting to see the reaction. Nine times out of ten they will smile back. That tenth person? Go smile at person number eleven.
Second, BELIEVE you are worth “getting petted” or in people terms, being paid attention to. Have you ever seen an excited dog doubt that they should be loved and petted? No. They have complete belief that you will be happy to see them. And you know what? As long as they don’t put their paws on your white clothes, etc. you are happy to see them.
For us humans, we need to believe that we will have a positive reaction back. And true law of attraction style – what you believe does become reality.
Third, have FAITH. The hardest thing is this faith element. Watch a dog though. If you’re watching at a park and they are playing some sort of fetch with their owner – sometimes the owner will be tired of throwing the ball, Frisbee, or stick. The dog will come back and be CERTAIN that they will get one more throw out of them. It’s amazing how many times people will do one more time… and one more… and yet one more because of that absolute faith.
Last, is go READ some books, listen to some tapes, or watch some videos on personal interaction. Whether you are in sales or just want to have more friends, life is always about learning. “How to Win Friends and Influence People” is an all-time classic. Read it. Make it a goal to study how to improve your human interaction skills. Believe you can improve and have faith that you are progressing.
And last… Take action NOW. Practice the smile. If it’s already flawless, shine it at your co-worker’s or even the cashier at the grocery store. Improvement is all about taking one step at a time.
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There are an abundance of Universal Laws. A quick Google search will lead you to pages and pages of so-called Universal Laws that are nothing more than words on a screen that have been passed down from author to author. Even today’s version of “The Secret” is a very well-done reworking of Wallace Wattles “The Science of Getting Rich.” Books written by Dale Carnegie and Napoleon Hill have had their copyright retired and have been edited, revised and relabeled with new cover pages because the information is that valuable.
Are their true Universal Laws and what are they? There are many schools of thought on the Universal Laws. Some are based on physics, some on personal development, and a lot on random ideas.
Napoleon Hill came up with 17 in the Keys to Success. His are:
- Develop a Definiteness of Purpose
- Establish a Mastermind Alliance
- Assemble an Attractive Personality
- Use Applied Faith
- Go the Extra Mile
- Create Personal Initiative
- Build a Positive Mental Attitude
- Control Your Enthusiasm
- Enforce Self-Discipline
- Think Accurately
- Control Your Attention
- Inspire Teamwork
- Learn from Adversity and Defeat
- Cultivate Creative Vision
- Maintain Sound Health
- Budget Your Time and Money
- Use Cosmic Habitforce
Herbert Harris shared his in the The Twelve Universal Laws of Success.
- I have a positive self image.
- I believe in myself and my abilities.
- I define my purpose and reason for living.
- I think positively, with understanding and faith that I can realize my purpose.
- I constantly visualize my purpose, seeing it clearly in my mind’s eye.
- I always focus on the positive.
- I have the confidence and courage to be inner directed.
- I take possession of my mind in such strength or degree that my emotions, my instincts, and my body are under my control.
- I always act in the present. I do it now.
- I have a plan for my success.
- I persist in my efforts with unshakable faith in my own ability.
- I execute my plan and produce desired results.
One version of 7 Universal Laws are:
- The Law of Mentalism
- The Law of Correspondence
- The Law of Vibration
- The Law of Polarity
- The Law of Rhythm
- The Law of Cause and Effect
- The Law of Gender
Another version states the 7 Universal Laws are:
- Law of Attraction
- Law of Cause and Effect
- Law of Conviction
- The Law of Threefold Return
- Law of Control
- Law of Correspondence
- Law of Expectation
As you can tell, many people have their own idea what constitutes “Universal Laws”.
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The Law of Attraction states: I attract to myself, whatever I give my focus, attention, or energy to; whether wanted or unwanted. Whatever you think about, focus on, worry about, or believe is what you will get and who you will be. This law is does not discriminate nor it does not play favorites, even though outwardly it may seem like it. The law works whether you, I, or anyone else for that matter intends it to or not.
The law of attraction boils down to like-attracts-like. It is absolute and doesn’t have anything to do with your religious beliefs, being a good or a bad person or whatever else.
Your desires and dreams shape your reality, your day-to-day activities and life. Imagine beginning to trust in yourself with your infinite possibilities. Imagine you deserve everything you want out of life and believing it. Imagine getting anything you desire from life.
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Since the release of the book and the movie in 2006 The Secret has been gaining momentum. The Secret has attracted the attention of both advocates and naysayers alike.
But what is the magic behind The Secret? Is there “magic” or “science”? I believe it depends on perspective and attitude. Most people will agree that a positive mental outlook, a cheery disposition, and a grateful attitude will get you better results no matter where you are or what you do. Whether its at your job, in your love life, your finances, your happiness, your health, and your overall interactions with other humans, as the old saying goes “you can attract more bees with honey than vinegar.”
The Secret shares many compelling stories of others who have tapped into this to achieve the impossible: massive wealth, overcoming obstacles, and better health. Many modern teachers have contributed to this book to share their personal growth in achieving health, wealth and happiness.
Skeptics will quickly point out the scientific flaws with The Secret and will tell you it is very repetitive and that it boils down to a lot of hype. This book will not be for everyone. People who already have a skeptical and negative outlook will not enjoy The Secret and will pick it apart for its scientific claims. By choosing to focus on the science and excitement/hype surrounding it they will miss the gems that are there. Be happy, focus on the positive, believe that you can get what you desire.
Regardless if you believe in the science or not, it is worthwhile to read it with an open mind.
By Rhonda Byrnes
Extended Edition DVD
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What is a Life coach?
A Life coach helps individuals set and reach goals, find a balance between work and family, and find enjoyment in life using tools and techniques from many different disciplines such as psychology, sociology, career counseling, NLP, mentoring and positive adult development. They are typically unlicensed and as such, psychology intervention and business analysis is outside the scope of their work.
Life coaches can help people in all areas of work from an high-powered executive, to small business owner to musician to entrepreneur achieve a more clear-cut focus in both handling business relationships as well as meeting familial obligations. They can help you clarify what direction to choose and what path to take by guiding you through the process.
Whether you are struggling to find that work and family balance or just want to have more fun in life, a life coach can walk with you through it all.
Are you drifting through life? Stuck in the proverbial rat race? Finding yourself in uncharted territory? If you were sick, you’d see a doctor. If you have tax questions, you’d see a CPA. If you had legal issues, you’d talk to an attorney. If you find yourself not sure of what do in your life, a Life coach may be your answer.
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Written over 100 years ago with multitudes of re-writes and republications, The Science of Getting Rich is more than just getting rich, it teaches you how to have a burning desire to become rich and how to have the proper mental attitude to become rich. I could narrate more on what Wallace Wattles says in The Science of Getting Rich, but it’s best to read it for yourself.
Here are quotes and snippets from The Science of Getting Rich. The book’s copyright has expired and as such this valuable book is now public domain which means you can read the book in it’s entirety for yourself.
Quotes from The Science of Getting Rich.
- Get rid of the idea that God wants you to sacrifice yourself for others and that you can secure his favor by doing so. God requires nothing of the kind. What God wants is that you should make the most of yourself, for yourself, and for others. And you can help others more by making the most of yourself than in any other way.
- The methods set forth here are for people whose desire for riches is strong enough to overcome mental laziness and the love of ease, and to make them work.
- To get rich, you need only to use your will power upon yourself. When you know what to think and do, then you must use your will to compel yourself to think and do the right things.
- Wallace Wattles
Read The Science of Getting Rich now.
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